Is he worth it?

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As little girls we saw our mothers put themselves last to make sure their families were taken care of.  I once saw my mother save enough from the grocery money to buy my father and brother a coat.  My mother needed a coat herself but to her it was more important that she get one for them.  I learned from this to put my needs second to the needs of others. 

 

Many of use have similar stories and there’s nothing wrong with putting your family first or your man first, but is he worth it.  This is the question you should ask yourself before you go above and beyond the call of duty. 

 

Before you dedicate your life to him, find out what type of family he came from.  Learn his character.  Find out if he has financial issues or if he can hold a job.  Living with someone after knowing him for less than a year is not a wise decision.   Sure there are exceptions to every rule but realistically you need to get to know a person first. 

 

These are some of the things some of my friends found out about their husbands after they were married.

 

1.                  He owed the IRS $20,000

2.                  He has a 5 year old daughter

3.                  He spent 10 years in prison

4.                  He beat his ex-wife

5.                  He steals and she can’t leave her pocket book unattended

6.                  He’s a former drug addict

7.                  He used to be homeless, sleeping on the subway in New York City

 

 

Before you give yourself to a man let him prove himself worthy of you.  Not by saying a lot of pretty words but let his actions speak.  If a man asks you to marry him he should be able to support a family.  He should have a plan for your future together.  If he doesn’t he is not ready to be a husband.  Ladies be more selective, be a “Choosey Lover” (The Isley Brothers) and minimize your chances of being played.