“Don’t hate the playa (player) hate the game”

“Don’t hate the playa (player) hate the game”

There is so much to be said about that statement; perhaps too much to put into one post so I’ll just start with the questions, If there is no players of the game does the game exist?  Would the game become defunct if no one played?  I believe that the players make the game a valid entity. Therefore, I must, if not hate, deeply dislike the playa as much or even more than I do the game.  Because without the playa the game is non-operational, and if so, is no longer a problem plaguing our community.

I was once told that men learn early in our community who gets the girl.  Guys who treat women bad and disrespect them are in high demand.  I was told that good men don’t get a chance so they become playas.  This made me sick because in a strange way it may be true.  Women are attracted to the slick smooth style of the bad boy.  He’s fun, exciting and romantic right up until he gets what he wants.  Then he becomes cruel and distant.  Add some daddy issues with some low self-esteem and you have a perfect victim for the game.  That’s right I said victim because to play the game you must have a playa and a victim. 

As we saw on Oprah’s Life Class with TD Jakes there are a lot of people out there with daddy issues so victims are really not that hard to find.  Why so many?  Could this be a result of the game? “The kind of thing that makes you say hmmm” (Welcome back Arsenio Hall).  Whatever the reason; it appears to be an epidemic. Women everywhere are suffering due to the lack of a father figure in their lives. I don’t necessarily see things through the eyes of the super preacher; although I deeply respect the man.  I feel that if a woman is held responsible for the well-being of her child.  A man should also be held responsible for the well-being of his child.  I am not talking about child support, but the day to day needs of the child.  If a woman fails to care for her child she runs the risk of being prosecuted for child neglect.  Why are these men able to walk away and not be held accountable for their children?  Instead children end up in poverty and the taxpayers and grandparents are burdened with their care. 

So “playa, playa” although you believe that the playa gets the girl, when that little girl grows up what she really wants is someone that will love her and care for her and her children.  She wants to share her life with a man not a boy or a playa.  When she wakes up and sees that the man she fell in love with is a playa (a self-centered parasite).  She runs as far and fast as she can to get away from him.  If you are smart you will be that good man that she’s looking for and she’ll run right into your arms.