I met a woman once that had been married to a man that did not work. He would not work. They had a child and she supported the family on a secretary’s salary.
One day she finally had enough and filed for divorce. That was when she got the surprise of her life. She had to pay alimony, give him 50% of all of her savings. In addition she had to give up custody of her son and pay her ex-husband child support. He and the child remained in the home.
She contemplated suicide; I introduced her to a minister who took her to his church and she did a complete turn around. She got her degree bought her own condo where she lived with her very over weight cat. I was amazed at her progress.
I noticed her reading a book and I asked her about it. The book was “Ten Stupid Things Women do to Mess Up Their Lives” By Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It was a great book that touched on the lives of real women that she met through her radio show. Dr. Schlessinger is real and she is to the point. I think it’s worth reading.
I gave one to my stepdaughter before she moved out and I plan to give one to my daughter when she turns 16.
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Well This is only my opinion but I believe we as women need to value ourselves more. I believe we need to see ourselves as the precious jewels we are---as our Heavenly Creator does! I know that the far majority have been in unhealthy relationships at some point in time during our teen/adult life. None of us our immune to being in a vulnerable place/spot in our lifes journey where we may allow someone to abuse or disrespect us in someway shape or form. However we need to learn and grow from that and not let it hinder us. Hinder us in believing in Love---believeing that THERE ARE men out here in this world that are men of integrity. Men who value women and know their true worth. Many of us (women) have been so damaged by allowing ourseleves to stay in unhealthy situations too long. We need not to compromise our standards/values. If something is rubbing you the wrong way--you need to speak on it. I f you see a red flag don't ignore it. Many times we will see a red flag and poopoo it away or rationalize it. As far as being tactul, I believe we should alway endeavor to be tactful when dealing with whomever in out daily lives. Whenever possible anyway. The Bible says be angry and sin not. I interpret that to mean you can be angry---but don't allow your anger to control you---or get out of control. At the end of the day I believe if we are in tune with our spiritual self and our Heavenly father/creator, we will have enough peace, joy,love and happiness to carry us and keep us. When we realize we don't need a man to merit our value. We can be Healthy and whole with or without one. If you surround yourselve with people family, friends, sista girlfriends, as well as feed your spirit ...you can be satisfied. I believe God knows the desires of our heart. He will bring you into the life of the man thats right for you when busying ourself with trying to grow/glow for him. We need to just keep on living and being the best friend, mom, aunt, worker (whatever the title) we can be until that time. In any event don't fall for the okie doke....and don't be a victim.
Peace Love and Grace my Sistas
P.S. Plz excuse any grammatical errors.
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