Recommended Reading

I met a woman once that had been married to a man that did not work. He would not work. They had a child and she supported the family on a secretary’s salary.

One day she finally had enough and filed for divorce. That was when she got the surprise of her life. She had to pay alimony, give him 50% of all of her savings. In addition she had to give up custody of her son and pay her ex-husband child support. He and the child remained in the home.

She contemplated suicide; I introduced her to a minister who took her to his church and she did a complete turn around. She got her degree bought her own condo where she lived with her very over weight cat. I was amazed at her progress.

I noticed her reading a book and I asked her about it. The book was “Ten Stupid Things Women do to Mess Up Their Lives” By Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It was a great book that touched on the lives of real women that she met through her radio show. Dr. Schlessinger is real and she is to the point. I think it’s worth reading.

I gave one to my stepdaughter before she moved out and I plan to give one to my daughter when she turns 16.

Politically incorrect (Crazy Bee)

Why is it women have to be tactful when dealing with men. It seems that no matter how they treat us we have to be reasonable and mature. Otherwise, you will certainly be called a “crazy bee”. I read that book by John Gray, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and I was totally disgusted. I was so disgusted that I gave the book to a man. After all a man who obviously knows how men feel and think, wrote it, so I thought a man would be interested in reading it.

The reason I was disgusted, the book seemed to suggest that we talk to men like children. As though they don’t understand what’s going on around them. I felt that if I would follow this book I would start talking to men like this.

Honey, I know that you were faithful to me before, I caught you sleeping with that girl in our bed. Thank you for being faithful until then. However, do you think we can talk about why you were unfaithful this time?

Are men retarded or what? It seems that everyone thinks we should deal with there bad behavior as though it’s normal.

Men need to stand up and be men and take responsibility for their actions. I know that people make mistakes but it is not a reason to excuse bad behavior. There are consequences to your actions. Why should they be exempted?

Because their anatomy is different than women, should not mean that they can do what ever they want. Showing no regard for the lives that they touch.

Men, women are people and yes they have lives that are affected by your self-centered behavior. I know that you know that your sisters are people and your daughters are people. Why do you think that other women are not?

Do you ever think about how hard it was for your mother to keep you in sneakers, jeans and tee shirts? You should; think of it every time you try to sleep with someone without a condom. Think of it every time you say “its not my baby”, “he don’t even look like me” Think about it every time you say “I take care of my kids” knowing you don’t have a job. Because when you are un-employed it is the tax -payers who take care of your kids.

I think I’ll continue to be politically incorrect and let those good women be politically correct. Because everyone knows the true definition of a good woman to a man is a stupid woman.

The Game is Crazy

Crazy

 

The game is crazy.   I think of it as the world being upside down.  Men look to women for financial support, yes I know things are different these days women work and earn a lot of money.  Yes I know it’s hard out there for a brother.  It’s difficult finding jobs.  But why do they think it’s easier for a sister?  If you are not a doctor, lawyer or some type of professional you are struggling.  They don’t pay women enough in general they pay minorities less. But we take that little bit of money and we make miracles. We feed, cloth, house and educate families. Other women resort to stripping and other dis-enchanting careers.  However the backbone of our community, the black woman; she dresses every child in their Sunday best, every Sunday morning and takes them to church with pride and dignity.  Because she wants her children to know what’s good and the house of the lord is the best place she knows.  But even with the bible in one hand some how mama failed to reach her sons to teach them to respect her to love and cherish her.  The church didn’t seem to help either.  My own mother a single mother raised us well.  But when my brother was 17 I over heard him telling a friend, that women were stupid you can tell them anything and they’ll believe it.  That same brother came to my house where I lived with my 4-year-old child and asked to borrow 20 dollars.  I told him I only had 20 dollars. He said if I let him borrow it he’ll give it back tomorrow when he gets paid.  I gave him my only 20 dollars and he never came back.

 

I do not think that all men are playing the game. However, there are a large percentage of them that are.  If you are not a player you can not relate but I can tell you that doctors have been played and have to find a way to deal with it or grow from it.  Most women have been played that includes host of TV shows and newscasters and more. We all have a story to tell because we are all out there looking for the same thing love.  Learning to love you is the greatest love of all.  When you love yourself it is hard to fall for the game, because the game is a direct assault on you. I’m telling all women to love themselves and not to think like an average woman but a woman who has a survivor instinct.  If you think I am bad you should talk to my mama. She has always taught me self-preservation is the first law of nature.  I’m a woman who stood up a diplomat, because he tried to play me.  I told him to meet me on the corner of 42nd and 8th Avenue in Manhattan and laughed at him calling on my answering machine while I entertained another man.

 

The problem with therapy is that we keep trying to fix the woman I say the woman isn’t broken it is the man who needs the help he is the one who is lying, cheating and feels no re-moist.  He is unbalanced. Women do what they are supposed to do, love blindly.  I once received an e-mail that said “a man asked God why did you make women so stupid, and God replied so that she would love you.” I don’t need to know how he thinks I already know; that’s why I stood up the diplomat.

 

The truth is when people need help they don’t seek it.  How many men are getting therapy for using women and leaving unwanted children behind. “Did I hear crickets.”

 

 

 

 

I am back I don't know for how long , but, I still have a few more post in me.  so here go's.