The coveted good-looking man has destroyed many women. Women lose touch with reason when they see a man that they think is “fine”. Women disrespect, wives and girlfriends. These women even disrespect parents, because they want to be with that “Fine AZZ Man”.
Every since elementary school I have witnessed women fighting over men. I went to an all girls’ school and the girls fought over boys that didn’t go to the school. The biggest fight ever in my school was between two Haitian girls who kept screaming, “that’s my man”.
The question I have is why? In most of these situations the man is totally unfaithful. He goes from woman to woman, taking full advantage of the situation. I never mention names but this time I will, when I was a pre-teen there were two twin boys that lived on my street, Tony and Ronny. They were really cute, but I didn’t think so because of their personalities. Ronny, to me, was the mean one, and he was the more rugged one. Tony was nicer and was always neat and well dressed. I once thought he was a nice person, because he was always nice to me. I was a few years younger so I knew it was not because he wanted to date me. My opinion changed after seeing how he physically abused a girl.
The first time I saw this girl she walked down our street and saw me playing out side and decided that I was her competition. She immediately started picking on me. I didn’t know her nor did I have any more than a neighborly relationship with Tony. I don’t know if this is the reason that Tony attacked her, but I was horrified at what he did. I know that the girl was a starker but his response was a little drastic. I was walking toward his house when I saw him push her and punch her so hard that she spun around and then he kicked her in the behind and told her to leave. She was mortified; I could see it in her face. Well that was my lesson learned about “Fine AZZ Men”. From that day I give a good-looking man a hard way to go. They have to work twice as hard to talk to me. Why? Because in that one instance I learned that they think it’s all about them. They think they can treat women any way that they want. They feel this way because they usually can. Women allow this and this is why it happens.
Women can prevent a lot of the things that happen to them by simply maintaining self-respect and dignity. Losing control over the appearance of a man is not logical and can be self-destructive. I do not think that Ronny and Tony started out being players I think women created these monsters.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Red Flag
They say that natural compensates for what we lack. Men are stronger than women does this mean that nature made us smarter?
If we are smarter why do we allow men to play us the way we do? Could it be all the sweet nothings that we are spoon feed as children? The fairy tales that tell us that we are going to live happily ever after? Or has nature made the instinct to create a family stronger than any other.
I know I have turned my eyes away a few times when a man did something that was totally out in left field. I said, well no ones perfect. What I learned from this is no there are no perfect people in the world however, some things go right to the root of a persons character. Not picking up your socks is not a character flaw. But if a person stretches the truth a lot and is really good at it, you might want to pay a little more attention.
I once invited a guy that I had recently met to a dinner party I was having. The evening started out really well but as the night went on this guy began to tell more and more incredible stories. First he told us that he went to St Johns University and was a star basketball player there. While at St Johns he used to shave points. This I don’t know much about but the men at the table explained to me what it was. For you ladies that don’t know ask your husbands. Any way this guy said that he was shaving points to the point that he made so much money that he used to travel to school by limo. Then he told us that he was Diana Ross’s bodyguard. Then he started to say that he worked for Full Force and Lisa Lisa and Cult Jam. These people I know so I asked when he worked for them, he changed the subject to him moving to Europe. He said he played basketball over there because the pay was so much more. Before he finished this long list of tales he said he was going to be leaving for South America soon; he has a contract to play ball down there. Although, very entertaining, I could tell that this guy liked to stretch the truth.
I took this as a red flag and did not date him. How many red flags have you ignored and why?
If we are smarter why do we allow men to play us the way we do? Could it be all the sweet nothings that we are spoon feed as children? The fairy tales that tell us that we are going to live happily ever after? Or has nature made the instinct to create a family stronger than any other.
I know I have turned my eyes away a few times when a man did something that was totally out in left field. I said, well no ones perfect. What I learned from this is no there are no perfect people in the world however, some things go right to the root of a persons character. Not picking up your socks is not a character flaw. But if a person stretches the truth a lot and is really good at it, you might want to pay a little more attention.
I once invited a guy that I had recently met to a dinner party I was having. The evening started out really well but as the night went on this guy began to tell more and more incredible stories. First he told us that he went to St Johns University and was a star basketball player there. While at St Johns he used to shave points. This I don’t know much about but the men at the table explained to me what it was. For you ladies that don’t know ask your husbands. Any way this guy said that he was shaving points to the point that he made so much money that he used to travel to school by limo. Then he told us that he was Diana Ross’s bodyguard. Then he started to say that he worked for Full Force and Lisa Lisa and Cult Jam. These people I know so I asked when he worked for them, he changed the subject to him moving to Europe. He said he played basketball over there because the pay was so much more. Before he finished this long list of tales he said he was going to be leaving for South America soon; he has a contract to play ball down there. Although, very entertaining, I could tell that this guy liked to stretch the truth.
I took this as a red flag and did not date him. How many red flags have you ignored and why?
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