Congratulations
President Elect Obama
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Reebill:
I wasn’t speaking on your comment. I was referring to comments that I received off-line.
I appreciate your post and agree totally with it.
Your post was excellent.
President elect Obama is a great example for men to follow. I think that he brings hope to our community as a whole. In some respect I do think that the lack of hope is the root of the problem some men have. Obama’s, being elected has shown us all, that we can achieve the impossible.
(Note: I saw an interview with Will Smith and he said that he was in Africa and some of the people kept shouting at him impossible. He didn’t understand, so he asked, why? A man told him, they say it because African Americans take nothing and do the impossible. He was referring to rap music but I think it is so much more. OBAMA!!!!! )
With that in mind I hope that the necessity I feel for this blog will diminish over the next 4 years.
However, now, I feel for the women who are out there hurting, struggling and feeling lost and confused. I feel for the women who want a good man and can’t find one. I feel for the women who thought they found the love of their lives only to find out he was after their bank account.
These women need to know that there is nothing wrong with them. They are not crazy or stupid. These men set out to find someone that they could take advantage of. Some of them look for women who have children. They do this because they know that she will always maintain a decent place to live and keep food on the table. For some of them this is their career. These men do not want to be the man in the relationship. They want to be freeloaders and parasites
I do not mean to spread hate but to inspire women to continue strive for a normal relationship. However, we need to be aware that these men are out there and are looking for unsuspecting women. These relationships hinder the growth of our community because it leaves so many of our children in poverty.
Some of us are in good relationships and I am very happy for those who are. However, it is not the majority.
I hope that you will continue to make your comments. I respect your opinion and look forward to reading more.
I would however, like you to keep in mind that this blog started out as a slightly comedic view on the subject while seriously discussing the issue. At times it may seem a little off colored but somewhere in what I write you will surely find a point.
From now on I will say that this comment is in reference to off-line comments.
Thanks for your post.
I wasn’t speaking on your comment. I was referring to comments that I received off-line.
I appreciate your post and agree totally with it.
Your post was excellent.
President elect Obama is a great example for men to follow. I think that he brings hope to our community as a whole. In some respect I do think that the lack of hope is the root of the problem some men have. Obama’s, being elected has shown us all, that we can achieve the impossible.
(Note: I saw an interview with Will Smith and he said that he was in Africa and some of the people kept shouting at him impossible. He didn’t understand, so he asked, why? A man told him, they say it because African Americans take nothing and do the impossible. He was referring to rap music but I think it is so much more. OBAMA!!!!! )
With that in mind I hope that the necessity I feel for this blog will diminish over the next 4 years.
However, now, I feel for the women who are out there hurting, struggling and feeling lost and confused. I feel for the women who want a good man and can’t find one. I feel for the women who thought they found the love of their lives only to find out he was after their bank account.
These women need to know that there is nothing wrong with them. They are not crazy or stupid. These men set out to find someone that they could take advantage of. Some of them look for women who have children. They do this because they know that she will always maintain a decent place to live and keep food on the table. For some of them this is their career. These men do not want to be the man in the relationship. They want to be freeloaders and parasites
I do not mean to spread hate but to inspire women to continue strive for a normal relationship. However, we need to be aware that these men are out there and are looking for unsuspecting women. These relationships hinder the growth of our community because it leaves so many of our children in poverty.
Some of us are in good relationships and I am very happy for those who are. However, it is not the majority.
I hope that you will continue to make your comments. I respect your opinion and look forward to reading more.
I would however, like you to keep in mind that this blog started out as a slightly comedic view on the subject while seriously discussing the issue. At times it may seem a little off colored but somewhere in what I write you will surely find a point.
From now on I will say that this comment is in reference to off-line comments.
Thanks for your post.
Sunday, November 2, 2008
The Female, male haters club (Not!)
It has come to my attention that some people think that this is an “I hate men site”. This is not an “I hate men site” it is about the way in which some men treat women. If you read my post you will see that I did state that there are female players as well as male players. As far as it being negative I can’t write positively about such a negative topic. It is not a good thing to take advantage of women and that is what this is about. I am sorry that some of us believe that it’s O.K. to treat other human beings as sub-human but I don’t think it’s right.
I know that there are good men out there but this blog is not about good men it is about men who go around populating the world with children that they have no intention of taking care of. This is about men who have made a career out of using women. If you are a good man and you don’t do this you should not be insulted.
I think that men are so self-absorbed that they actually don’t realized how serious this situation really is. The language that is used in our music is a reflection of the men in our community it suggests that it is not necessary to respect women. Not even female senators are above verbal assault.
The music refers to pimps, Mac Daddies and hoes as though it is a good thing. Our daughters are not offended by the explicit manner that young men address them. I am trying to open eyes to the reality of this situation.
The reality is that this situation has existed for much longer than the hip hop era. This situation started many years ago and our children are only doing what they learned from us. We cheated, shacked and wrote songs about stroking and now we are reaping what we sowed.
I remember back in the early 80’s I saw a young man walk over to a young girl and say “girl I will rock your world” he went on to describe just how he would do that; I was sickened. The young girl was flattered. That was when I realized we were in trouble.
God blessed me with a son and a daughter I teach them to respect one another and all the same rules apply to both. There are no special privileges for my son. I do this because I have heard men and women tell there son’s to go out and do what ever they want because they don’t get pregnant. If we stopped teaching our sons this we would not have to worry so much about our daughters.
The ignorance runs so deep, that the abuser will most certainly attack a blog such as this, which uncovers it. Because it is what we have known and lived for so long some of us actually don’t see the problem.
Some women will find this a non-issue. I once talked for hours one night with a woman from the Middle East. She told me that at the age of 16 she was told that she was going to marry a man that was 15 years her senior. She was not told anything about what marriage meant. She was taken shopping she got beautiful clothes and she was excited about the marriage. The day of the wedding was wonderful there was food family and friends. The wedding night was not so nice. She did not know what was coming next. She started to cry, as she told me that her husband beat her into submission. She was beaten for years after because she never accepted her role as his wife. She wanted to go home to her parents. He wouldn’t even let her visit. I met her when he brought her to the United States and left her with her children and went back home. This woman told me one day that she was going to take her daughter back to the Middle East because she was getting older and she needed to be married. It was what she was taught; she believed this was the right thing to do. The same for some women here in our own community they accept the abuse because it is all they know.
It would be nice if everyone stuck their heads in the sand and pretended that the world was perfect. The reality is the world is not perfect and I thank God for the ability to see it and speak on it.
I know that there are good men out there but this blog is not about good men it is about men who go around populating the world with children that they have no intention of taking care of. This is about men who have made a career out of using women. If you are a good man and you don’t do this you should not be insulted.
I think that men are so self-absorbed that they actually don’t realized how serious this situation really is. The language that is used in our music is a reflection of the men in our community it suggests that it is not necessary to respect women. Not even female senators are above verbal assault.
The music refers to pimps, Mac Daddies and hoes as though it is a good thing. Our daughters are not offended by the explicit manner that young men address them. I am trying to open eyes to the reality of this situation.
The reality is that this situation has existed for much longer than the hip hop era. This situation started many years ago and our children are only doing what they learned from us. We cheated, shacked and wrote songs about stroking and now we are reaping what we sowed.
I remember back in the early 80’s I saw a young man walk over to a young girl and say “girl I will rock your world” he went on to describe just how he would do that; I was sickened. The young girl was flattered. That was when I realized we were in trouble.
God blessed me with a son and a daughter I teach them to respect one another and all the same rules apply to both. There are no special privileges for my son. I do this because I have heard men and women tell there son’s to go out and do what ever they want because they don’t get pregnant. If we stopped teaching our sons this we would not have to worry so much about our daughters.
The ignorance runs so deep, that the abuser will most certainly attack a blog such as this, which uncovers it. Because it is what we have known and lived for so long some of us actually don’t see the problem.
Some women will find this a non-issue. I once talked for hours one night with a woman from the Middle East. She told me that at the age of 16 she was told that she was going to marry a man that was 15 years her senior. She was not told anything about what marriage meant. She was taken shopping she got beautiful clothes and she was excited about the marriage. The day of the wedding was wonderful there was food family and friends. The wedding night was not so nice. She did not know what was coming next. She started to cry, as she told me that her husband beat her into submission. She was beaten for years after because she never accepted her role as his wife. She wanted to go home to her parents. He wouldn’t even let her visit. I met her when he brought her to the United States and left her with her children and went back home. This woman told me one day that she was going to take her daughter back to the Middle East because she was getting older and she needed to be married. It was what she was taught; she believed this was the right thing to do. The same for some women here in our own community they accept the abuse because it is all they know.
It would be nice if everyone stuck their heads in the sand and pretended that the world was perfect. The reality is the world is not perfect and I thank God for the ability to see it and speak on it.
You can't handle the truth
I am told that this quote came from a movie. I don’t know, I didn’t see it. What I do know is that it is on my list of ridiculous statements. That list consist of
1. Don’t hate the player hate the game
2. I am just keeping it real
3. You can’t handle the truth.
People use these quotes to excuse their bad behavior. What people are saying when they use this statement is that they don’t want to deal with the consequences of their actions. It is easier to say I didn’t tell you because you can’t handle the truth. Instead of being truthful and allowing the person to process the information and react to it. What they are saying is I expect your reaction to be negative so I will hide my bad behavior.
I do know that people make many bad decisions, in life that includes women as well as men, which we do not want to admit to. However, hiding behind BS lines like this is unacceptable. When you make a mistake especially when you are caught dead on, confess. Humble yourself and apologize.
1. Don’t hate the player hate the game
2. I am just keeping it real
3. You can’t handle the truth.
People use these quotes to excuse their bad behavior. What people are saying when they use this statement is that they don’t want to deal with the consequences of their actions. It is easier to say I didn’t tell you because you can’t handle the truth. Instead of being truthful and allowing the person to process the information and react to it. What they are saying is I expect your reaction to be negative so I will hide my bad behavior.
I do know that people make many bad decisions, in life that includes women as well as men, which we do not want to admit to. However, hiding behind BS lines like this is unacceptable. When you make a mistake especially when you are caught dead on, confess. Humble yourself and apologize.
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